Inner self: Let's be kind to ourselves?

It’s bad enough feeling stressed, anxious or depressed. But what worsens those feelings of pain is that we can’t just accept what it going on inside our minds. We have to criticize ourselves for being afraid, angry, jealous and so on. That’s what really brings us down: the inner critic.


But that’s usually not the end of the story. We start to feel that we should’ve known they weren’t happy; that it’s something we did wrong, and it’s solely our responsibility. We should’ve done this to prevent their leaving, and that to find a quick replacement.

We come down hard on ourselves and cannot possibly forgive that we can’t read other people’s minds, or potentially made a mistake. It’s unacceptable that we’re human, and humans can’t always know.

What’s needed in order to silence the self-critical voices in out head is unconditional positive regard.  We need to look at ourselves with unconditional positive regard and say to ourselves “Don’t worry so much”... or “what I did or said at that time was right, so I will accept my reality and now just move on” simple... Nobody is perfect!!

The same way we don't like when people are critical towards us, let's not accept too mcuh criticism from ourselves towards ourselves... If we can leave ourselves alone, our whole self-image will improve. We cut out stress and fear, we sleep better, have better relationships and so on.


If you are a forgiving person, start with yourself. Give yourself a break. You’ll feel better in no time.